Today’s post is a sort of open letter to my grandsons about the choice of a mate. They haven’t asked me for any advice, but, if they did, here’s what I would have to say:
The first thing that is going to attract you to a member of the opposite sex is her looks. That’s just a fact. But in the long run, it is far from being the most important thing about her.
Oddly enough, what you think is beautiful is going to be different from what your brother thinks is attractive. There have been studies that say that the most important attribute determining beauty is symmetry – that means that one side of her face is nearly a mirror image of the other - but standards for what is pretty vary all over the world. Your brother, or your best friend, may be attracted to a girl that you think is downright ugly.
That’s OK – if ugly people never found mates, the species would have died out years ago. And, that girl with that perfect face and body may be totally lacking in the personality department.
I’m tempted to tell you that sex isn’t all that important, but you’d probably just think I’m an old geezer who has forgotten how important it really is - so I’ll just say this – the most virile couple on earth probably couldn’t average more than one hour of sexual activity per day. That leaves 23 hours out of 24. If you sleep 7 hours per night, and work 8 hours per day, that still leaves 8 hours to fill, so you’d better have something else in common, something you both enjoy.
Find a girl that you can enjoy talking to – preferably one who is smarter than you – and you will be much happier in the long run. It’s worked for me for the last 50 years.
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